That hardest part is starting, right? So I’m just going to start this post and see where it goes. I’ve been mulling it over in my head. I reread last year’s post for inspiration. Still, I basically got nothing.
Last year I had a lot to write about because things were so hard and then, in the end, things were going great. This year was pretty uneventful. In a word, it was wonderful. Absolutely wonderful.
We laughed. Mostly at ourselves, our dogs, at dumb things like farting or hiding from bats. We laughed so we didn’t cry when June stole an entire freshly baked pie off the kitchen counter before Brian tasted a single bite, and again when we could only get one TV channel and the internet was out.
Thank the Lord, we didn’t cry much this year. I cried occasional tears of happiness and relief when things were going so well and coming together so nicely. I still shake my head when I look around and see all that we have accomplished together here on the farm.
Do we fight? Of course. Here’s how pretty much every fight went this year: One of us would say something to the other in a louder than normal voice due to frustration from stress or a difficult project. The other person would flip out for being unfairly yelled at and yell back loudly that you’d better not yell at ME!!! Then the original yeller typically would apologize for accidentally yelling (or insist that they didn’t yell at all but they are sorry if you took it that way) to which the responder would declare how proud they are of themself for keeping their temper in check and would you please remember to do the same even though it is hard? And I think those fights happened maybe three times all year.
We have the typical little spats like “I can’t believe you left the shower curtain open AGAIN!!!!” but for that type of stuff we’re both pretty much in the habit of saying, “Ok, I know you don’t mean to do this I just want to mention it so you realize you did it…”. When we have bad “moments” it’s pretty typical to catch us kissing and apologizing the next time we see each other.
I am so excited to be at the point where the honeymoon is over, we know what we’re working with, and we’re still in love. It may sound cliche but I am married to my best friend. We’re on the same page with money and that has forced us to work together in a whole new way. We have the same goals, the same dreams even. Okay, except I don’t want tractors that cost as much as the farm and Brian doesn’t want a dozen children. But that’ll work out, right!?
If you have any specific questions or ideas for discussion on marriage let me know. How was your marriage at the two year mark? How is it now?